The following are just some things that people say that piss me off:
You need to forgive him.
Really? Is that your professional opinion Mr. IDon’tRememberAskingYouForYourOpinion. What would you know about forgiveness and living with this shit day in and day out?
I think you need to leave him.
Really? You just think? Listen, that’s way easier said than done. Once you get to be in my shoes, please tell yourself the same thing. Ok?
Why don’t you just pray about it? God can heal all wounds.
Ok. Great. Why don’t you do that for me? Because I’ve been on my knees every single day begging God to give us freedom from this addiction. I guess a saintlier person needs to pray about it for the request to be heard.
It’s just a phase. He’ll grow out of it.
Oh, I am so glad that you know all about the situation. I am so glad that this is just a phase and one day he can wake up and just snap out of his addiction. I am so glad that there are no drug addicts past the age of 30.
Addiction is not a disease so why are you treating it like one?
Oh, please tell me your credentials as well. I’d love to know what makes you so qualified to tell me if addiction is a disease or not. And because without psychotherapy, my husband is as good as dead.
For anyone else who has any other “words of wisdom” unless you’ve been in my shoes, or are in my shoes, please have the common decency to shut up and not say anything about something you do not understand.